OK… My REAL, Uncensored views on Homophobia in the Life

I read with great interest both Indy’s as well as Pandora’s posts concerning the disgusting, narrow-minded disease that is homophobia in the spanking/kink scene as it relates to M/m interaction.  I would first of all like to say thank you to both Ladies for having the courage to at least state your views and bring this to the forefront.  Having said that, and after commenting on both posts in the most PC manner I could muster, here are some further thoughts I have on the subject and the replies thereto.

I lived most of my life hiding who I am and what I like, thinking that was the “right thing to do”.  I chose for a while to allow mainstream society to dictate how I lived my Adult Consensual Life both in and out of the workplace.  Those days, are 100% over… and actually have been for a while.  I think one of the most disgusting things in the kink lifestyle is the self-appointed ability of the hetero-Men to be Judge and Jury as to what is “right and wrong” when concerning public or semi-private interaction.  These “men” are the same ones who would bitch to High Heaven if an organizer of one of these precious parties held by various Organizations were to say “those who enjoy using a paddle on a females bare bottom will be uncomfortable and are discouraged from attending”, and yet we seem to sit idly by as this same type of discrimination is slathered throughout the Community because of some unwritten “rule” that the hetero-men are running the show!  I give HIGH praise to both Mija and Paul, for their strength and courage to not patronize organizations that allow and promote such archaic attitudes, even if it means sacrificing a bit of fun.  Guess what everyone, change isnt easy, and the voyage sure as Hell isnt always fun!  I am very happy that these two wonderful people recognize that, and they both have earned my utmost Respect, even though I have never met either of them.  We arent Switzerland, and we arent all from Nepal…. we do NOT have to be neutral and there are times when pacifism just doesnt cut the mustard.

I feel it will take a concentrated effort, a portion of the entire Community as a whole, to Man (or Woman) up and take a stand.  If we feel strongly about this, lets SHOW the Crimson Moons and the (insert other spanking organization here) of the U.S. that, instead of rolling over and accepting the status quo.  Let us show them that they need US more than we need THEM!  Why does it take paying a group of people that have thoughts and “strong suggestions” that we dont agree with registration and party fees to get like minded Friends in a hotel or campground together?  For those of us that have Friends across the pond, why do we need a party to bring us all together??  Would it not be enough to get together as Friends to enjoy each others company, socialize, and interact as we wish?  If we who have Friends in different parts of the Country and the World truly consider each other Friends, why dont we find one or two times each year to gather as such and enjoy a weekend or more of socializing, spanking, and whatever other “ing” we are comfortable with in an equal, non-discriminatory manner?  I dont mind flying the Flag alone, but I would surely welcome, greatly appreciate, and cherish the assistance of those in the Life that truly do see this as the troublesome plague it is.

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